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Nankhatai Recipe

Nankhatai one of our childhood favorite, shortbread like cookies made with ghee (Indian clarified butter) and flavored with cardamom that just melts in mouth and start craving for more 🙂 And no one eat just one! Hungry already?

I always want to bake them and finally when we got our microwave, tried my hands on my favorite item. Big hit, I should say!

Sharing an easy recipe.

Nankhatai Recipe

INGREDIENTS

1 + 3/4 cup Wholewheat flour / all purpose flour / maida

1 cup Ghee ( Indian clarified butter )

3/4 cup powdered sugar (you can use more I prefer less sweet)

1/2 cup Chickpea flour/ besan

1 Tsp cardamom powder

1/8 Tsp Baking soda

Pinch of salt

Almonds for garnishing – 10-12 nos

METHOD

Shift wheat flour , chickpea flour , salt and baking soda in a bowl .

Add powdered sugar to Ghee and whisk well until it becomes light and fluffy.

Add dry ingredients to whisked ghee and sugar and fold gently, the mixture would form a soft dough.

Now divide the dough into small parts and make rounds.

Press the balls gently and garnish with Almond pieces.

now place the balls in a tray and refrigerate for 25-30 minutes.

Meanwhile pre heat your microwave/ oven 170 degrees C

Place the balls on greased baking tray on a parchment paper.

Bake it for 15-20 minutes until it turns light brown, keep an eye they tend to burn faster so keep watching, check base for burning.

Let them cool on wire rack and store in air tight container.

Nankhatai is now ready to be served. While, we know not all things tasty are healthy! But, our home-made Nankhatai Recipe is way better than the biscuits readily available in abundance at the supermarket.  Try our recipe & tell us how you like them! While Children’s Day is not far away, this is the perfect Nakhatai.

A Letter To My Pregnant Self And Any Other Perfectionist Moms To Be

I had many an illusions while I was pregnant and though my parenting journey is only of 5 years; I have realized that I was suffering from many a myths. So, if I could look back and talk to my pregnant self today; this is what I would inform myself. Maybe this would resonate with some of you and help others.

Dear Ms Wannabe perfectionist,

Hello mommy to be, I know you are excited and a little nervous. You are being very planned and organized for the baby. But, I want to tell you a few things so that you can enjoy your pregnancy to the fullest because henceforth you can forget about being planned as that word will escape your life’s dictionary.

So here are my suggestions and you are hereby forewarned:

Stop judging the mothers of the children that you think are spoilt. Stop questioning other people’s parenting styles and for goodness sake stop trying to perfect your own parenting style in your head. For all the strong opinions you have, you are now about to discover confusion and chaos and indecision and yes you shall finally learn spontaneity. So, these very parents that you judge in your mind can come to your rescue when your times of confusion begin.

You know how you like an organized house and you think that you will be able to train your child into adapting your methods; well this idea shall be the biggest joke ever. Your love of all things white in the house shall become a love that will be stained with many things ranging from human excrement to pulpy fruit! Let me inform you that your child at 6 months will be a mini version of your adamant self of when you were 16 years. Yes, you will get a dose of your own medicine in double strength! Karma is a bxxxx. So, while you are drooling over the onesies and stocking the toy cupboard; don’t forget to stock the bar too to help you along.

I know right now you are tired of the wait, you think you can’t sleep because of the pregnancy and you are mistaken. These are your good days honey. You shall be very soon sleep deprived and you will feel like a zombie on most days. Sleep when the baby sleeps will not work for you, because you are a wannabe perfectionist. As soon as the baby sleeps you will get back to making things perfect so let me burst the bubble and ask you to read point 2 again. So enjoy whatever sleep you are getting now and you can buy some magic concealers for the dark circles you are about to get.

Pregnant woman sleeping

While we are on the subject of innovative make up used to hide flaws, let me inform you that no amount of jojoba oil and coconut butter is going to help you in your stretch marks so get ready to bear those marks on your body with the pride that motherhood shall bring.

Yes, motherhood shall bring pride. And you know what else motherhood will bring, unconditional love like you have never experienced before. You heart will be full and you will turn into a guardian and ninja mother and you will love it (mostly). But, it shall also bring sometimes the friends of guilt that are confusion, indecision, worry, dilemma and uncertainty. However, love will conquer it all.

So, while you are pregnant and wondering if you should take that epidural; spend time with yourself strengthening you mind, soul and spirit. Spend quality time with the husband for there will be moments when you would perhaps want to kill him for impregnating you; resist that temptation for he will make a handy help with the little one! Spend quality time with your mother for you will respect the lady more going forward for bearing and rearing you and for all the guidance and support you shall receive.

And now, Miss wannabe perfectionist let me highlight the biggest myth that is- there can be perfection in parenting. You have planned everything in your life but while being organized sorted and scheduled will help so will spontaneity, improvising and being whimsical. You will learn that imperfect parents are better than the perfect ones (look at your own parents and you turned out okay). So relax for there is no way that you have all the answers and enjoy the journey for it shall unravel many mysteries. And blossom in the love for that is absolute.

Does Questioning Mean Disobedience?

If you ask me, ‘Does Questioning Mean Disobedience?’ I would say NO! Rather, it’s important to allow children to question the norms no matter how controversial it may sound; Just because we never questioned our parents and took it up as stated doesn’t mean our kids need to follow suit. Only in an environment where children feel safe, secure and get unconditional love, will they push boundaries and have the courage to ask uncomfortable questions. Where else can they voice their opinions so freely without garnering judgement or criticism? Where else but home?

Asking questions have long been associated with disobedience in our society and that’s kind of hard-wired in our system. So, basically we are a society that thinks compliance means obedience and an obedient kid equals successful parenting.

Does questioning mean disobedience

As soon as a child questions certain norms that we had blindly followed when we were kids, we feel threatened; and if the child persists then it is termed plain and simple disobedience. Yes, it would be easier if our kids just listened to whatever we say without rhyme or reason; but don’t we want our kids to be curious, inquisitive and thinking people or would we rather just want mindless compliance? (I know, sometimes mindless compliance is bliss; but you know what I mean here).

I personally know kids who just comply to avoid arguments and say things that would be acceptable and “politically correct” even though they don’t personally agree with it nor have any conviction in what they are saying. I definitely don’t want that in my kids.

So when my kids ask uncomfortable questions or question my decision, instead of feeling anxious or flustered I think, maybe this just means that I have given them that freedom to express their thoughts, that comfort level to speak their mind and that conviction that they wouldn’t be judged or taken amiss. Their questions range from heavy topics like following traditions, cultural beliefs and faith in god to lighter ones like their comfort vs. dress codes, family rules, bed-time etc. etc.

There are times when I had wondered if letting them speak their mind was a right decision and should I have probably said “Do it as I say” or “Because I said so” rather than answering all their questions diligently? Because that would have been much easier to do than to answer their why’s; “but why should I” or “why shouldn’t I”.

But now, being a little older and probably just a little bit wiser, I know that it was the right thing to do.

Not easy, but right.

Now, I have learnt to take pride in my kid’s uncomfortable questions.

I think we should be proud if our kids come to us with such questions and arguments that catch us unawares. If we could give convincing answers or counter arguments then well and good; but even otherwise it helps to have open ended discussions and debates which allow us to hear each other out and bring our opinions to the table and be able to present our side of justifications. It is never easy for people belonging to two different generations to agree on everything. It is never going to happen, no matter how open-minded and forward-thinking person you are.

Every generation feels they were not understood by their parent’s generation. It’s not going to be any different now between our kids and us. We can kid ourselves by thinking otherwise, but we will wake up soon enough, because that’s how it is.

Does questioning mean disobedience

So not agreeing to their views doesn’t mean we can’t have open discussions and healthy arguments with our kids. We must. And from time to time, as and when a situation presents itself, we should take the opportunity to discuss, debate and even agree to disagree, if need be; but definitely talk and not shy away or avoid confrontations. This also moulds kids to speak up when needed and not be a push-over even as adults.

There are so many issues popping up around us, so many good, bad and ugly happenings; things we might not feel comfortable discussing with our kids. If not through us, they will get to know about these things through media; so whether it’s about issues of hate crimes, racism, sexual abuse, climate change or anything else under the sun, we must be able to talk to our kids.

We may not always have the right answers but we must allow the thought process often loaded with contradicting stand-points, to take place in the safe confines of our homes. In all probability, our children may not even be seeking answers; they might just need a sounding board, a safe haven to bring out their anxieties, confusions and insecurities. All we need is to just provide that space for them.

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Gender Sensitization Begins At Home

Today morning while we were busy in the kitchen preparing breakfast alongside packing lunch for kids, my husband suddenly remembered something my nephew said to him a few days ago. It seems he noticed my husband working in the kitchen and remarked, “I have never seen my dad doing stuff in the kitchen, ever!”  Although we had a hearty laugh at that remark, we wondered about his observation.

Do we even realize that our children might be watching, observing and imbibing so much from what we do every day? Kids seem so busy and self-absorbed in their tasks that we might think that they don’t take notice of our everyday actions; but they do. That passing remark is a proof for that and that got us both thinking.

Gender Sensitization begins at home

At our home, it’s always been this way. There is no demarcation of who does what around the house. If there is a pile of laundry to be done, my husband would take care of it without a second thought. When it comes to cooking, though I am the main in-charge so to speak, but he pitches in without me asking for any assistance. It’s just that it comes naturally to him, as we love doing things together, be it cooking or cleaning. It is not forced or planned. It’s not even about taking turns or keeping score; it’s just an unsaid understanding, that if something needs to be done, then we just do it. It’s not categorised under ‘his’ or ‘her’ job.

And probably that’s why my son and daughter both took to cooking easily. Probably they just ended-up hanging around in the kitchen seeing us both there, making dinner every day. Both my kids do dishes and laundry as and when needed. And at times both of them make a fuss about doing chores too, because of course it is but natural to hate chores like any normal kid, right? But it is never because of the nature of chore.

We have never implied by means of words or actions that there are certain things meant to be done by men or women; at least not by me or my husband. Of course, occasionally well-meaning grandparents and relatives do mention quite explicitly what a girl or a boy ought to do or not do, but those occasional remarks don’t do any harm to my kid’s perceptions as they see us in action day-in and day-out and that’s what has a deep rooted effect on them.

It also needs special mention that all these household chores that my husband and kids are involved in, be it drying the clothes, washing the dishes or cooking, is done irrespective of whether we are entertaining guests, relatives or we are by ourselves. There is no pretence and we don’t do things just for show. They get to see what we always do. There is no chore that is unmanly, unwomanly or beneath oneself; there is no shame in taking care of your home and the people you love. So, absolutely no double standards. This has gone a long way in forming the right perception in my kids I guess.

This also proves the philosophy that what we practice rather than what we preach, has a greater impact on our children. And when that is done in every aspect of life whether it is instilling values or cultural belief systems, it will have a greater effect on our children and they will learn to follow through on those values and not get bogged down by peer pressure when the time presents itself.

Can’t believe that one innocent remark made by my ten year old nephew brought out such an enlightening and interesting observation. It was truly a light bulb or eureka moment for us; and it did help us arrive at a rather wonderful insight. To think we had been doing all this without actually thinking  about what it’s effects would be on our kids, is well, really heartening. And to think, in all this we have been unknowingly gender sensitising our kids and asserting equality among genders;  teaching my son to be a true feminist and my daughter that she is no different because of her gender, is truly, truly a substantial achievement of sorts.

All this mega dose of enlightenment while being smack-dab in the middle of a crazy working Friday morning is making me slightly dizzy. And yes, we did manage to pack lunch bags with snack, lunch, water-bottles et al for four people and put breakfast on the table by 7:30 AM.

It does help having two people in the kitchen, don’t you think?

பாட்டி…! – இந்த தலைமுறை குழந்தைக்கு ஒரு கதை

பாட்டி...! - இந்த தலைமுறை குழந்தைக்கு ஒரு கதை

“ஸ்ரீதி ..! என்னடி பண்ணிண்டிருக்கே?  கூப்பிடறது காதிலே விழலே?  ” என பாட்டி குரல் நன்றாய் கேட்டது… ஆனால் இவளுக்கு பதில் சொல்ல விருப்பம் இல்லாதது போல்  சுவரின் மீது எதையோப் பார்த்துக்கொண்டிருந்தாள்..

“பாவனா… என்னடி ஆச்சு இந்த ஸ்ரீதிக்கு ?  எதையோ பறிகொடுத்தவ போல இருக்கா?  நீ என்ன இதைப் பற்றி கவலைப் படாமல் இருக்கே…. இங்க வா !  ” அம்மா கூப்பிட்டதும் ஓடி வந்தாள் “என்னமா வேணும் உனக்கு?  அடுப்பில் கேசரி கிளறிண்டு  இருக்கேன் அடி பிடிக்கப்போறது..சொல்லு சீக்கிரம்…” அவசரப் படுத்தினாள் பாவனா….

ஸ்ரீரங்கத்திலிருந்து ஒரு கல்யாணத்திற்கு வந்தாள் பாட்டி..  மாப்பிள்ளை ஊரில் இல்லாததால் மேலும் 4 நாட்கள் தங்கும்படி பாவனா கூற மறுக்க முடியாமல் சரி என்றாள் .

”  ஏய்… இங்கப் பாரு உன் பெண்னை … நான் கூப்பிட்டா கூட பதில் இல்லை… கொஞ்சம் வத்தல் போட கூப்பிடலாம்னு….எதுக்கு இப்படி இருக்கா ?  “

“அம்மா…!  அவா உலகமே வேற ,,, எத்தனையோ யோசனைகள்….. இப்ப 10 ம் கிளாஸ் படிக்கிறா… என்ன மேலே படிக்கறது..?  வேற கம்ப்யூட்டர் கிளாஸ் சேரலாமா?  டான்ஸ் கத்துக்கறதை நிறுத்தலாமா?  இப்படி எத்தனையோ…. நீ கூப்பிடறது எல்லாம் காதிலே விழாது… கொஞ்சம் இரு… நான் அடுப்பை அணைச்சுட்டு வரேன்… ”  பொறுப்பில்லாமல் தன் மகள் பேசியதாய் நினைத்தாள்  பாட்டி…

” போடி பாவனா…. நீ இதோ இந்த வயசிலேயும் நான் கூட்டா ஓடி வரே … என்னமோ போ…. இதுகள் ஏன் இப்படி ? “

பாவனா உள்ளே சென்று கேசரியை இறக்கி விட்டு வந்தாள் ..

” நாங்க வளர்ந்த சூழ்நிலை வேற… இப்ப இதுகள் இருக்கற காலம் வேற…. நாங்க இப்படியா தனியா இருந்தோம்…. சுத்தி எப்போதும் 10 பேராவது இருப்பா… லீவு விட்டால் போதும்… பாட்டி ஆம், அத்தை ஆகம்னு போவோம்… 10 நாள் இருந்துட்டு வருவோம்…. அக்கம் பக்கம் எல்லோருடனும் விளையாடுவோம்….  எப்பவாவது சினிமா போனா கும்பலா போவோம் எத்தனை குஷியாக இருக்கும்… இப்ப?  நாங்க மூணு பேரு சேர்ந்து ஒரு படம் பார்த்ததா எனக்கு ஞாபகம் இல்லைம்மா… காலம் மாறிப் போச்சு….. இப்போ எல்லாம் ரெக்கை கட்டிண்டு பறக்க வேண்டி இருக்கு…. ஏதோ நான் 10 வருஷத்திற்கு முன்னாடியே வேலையை விட்டுட்டேன்… தப்பிச்சேன்… இல்லைனா உங்கிட்ட இப்படி சாவகாசமா பேசிண்டிருக்க முடியுமா….?  ”  பாவனா பேசிக்கொண்டே கூழை எடுத்து அச்சில் போட்டு பிழிந்தாள் …

“நிஜமாவே எனக்கு ஒரு பயம் வந்திடுற்துமா… எனக்கு இதோ நீ இருக்கே… சுத்தி சித்தி, அத்தை, அண்ணா, மன்னி, நாத்தனார்னு சொந்தங்கள் பிரியாமல் அப்பப்ப பேசிண்டு ஒருவருக்கு ஒருவர் நம்ம அன்றாட நிகழ்வுகளை பரிமாறிண்டு இருக்கோம்…. ஆனால், எங்க அடுத்த தலைமுறை என்ன ஆகப்போறதுன்னு தெரியலே… ஒத்தை குழந்தை…!  பெரியப்பா, சித்தப்பா, அத்தை, மாமா சித்தி, பெரியம்மா, அண்ணா, தம்பி, அக்கா, தங்கை…என்கிற சொந்தங்கள் எல்லாம் என்ன ஆகும்..?  உறவுகள் அவ்வளவுதானா? ”  ஒரு பயம் தன் மகளின் கண்களின் கண்ட பாட்டிக்கு பக் என்றது…

”  சீ… என்னடி பாவனா…? இப்பதான் தைரியமா பேசின?  எதுக்கு பயம்? கலக்கம்?  நீ சொன்னியே உன்னை சுத்தி இத்தனைப் பேரு இருக்கானு…அவர்களை தொத்திக்கொ… அவர்கள் வாரிசும் உன் வாரிசும் ஒன்றாய் நடை போடட்டும்…. எப்படி உறவுகள் அழிஞ்சிடும்னு சொல்லு!  நாமதான் குழந்தைகளுக்கு பந்தங்களை சொல்லித்தரணும் …. நீ சொல்லித்தா…. ஸ்ரீதிக்கு எல்லோரும் இருக்கா… பயத்தை விடு…”  ஆதரவாய் மகளின் கையை தடவினாள் பாட்டி…

“பாட்டி, நான், நீ, அம்மா தாயக்கட்டை விளையாடலாமா?  அப்புறம் எங்கயாவது போகணும்… அம்மா சொல்லு எங்க போலாம்..? ” ஸ்ரீதி பாட்டி மடியில் சாய்ந்தாள்.

” பக்கத்திலே ஒரு புது மால் வந்திருக்கு பாட்டியை கூட்டிண்டு போலாமா?  ”  பாவனா கேட்க

”  ஒன்னும் வேண்டாம்… ஒரே போர்…. அத்தை ஆத்துக்கு போலாம்…. ரோஷன் ஸ்கூலேர்ந்து வந்திடுவான்…. சரியா ?  “

“போலாமே…. என் செல்லம்… நானும் உன் அத்தையைப் பார்த்து ரொம்ப நாள் அச்சு… போலாம்… கொஞ்சம் கூழ் எடுத்து வெச்சுக்கோ பாவனா… அப்புறம் கேசரி… மறக்காதே…. குழந்தைக்கு என்ன பிடிக்கும் ஸ்ரீதி…?  “

“வேர்க்கடலை உருண்டை…. அதான் அவனோட சாய்ஸ்… ”  ஸ்ரீதி சந்தோஷமாய் சொல்ல ” அப்ப 200 கிராம் வேர்க்கடலை வாங்கிண்டு வா… அதற்குள்ள பாகு வைக்கிறேன்…. நானே உருண்டை செய்துடறேன் … ”  பாட்டி சொல்லிவிட்டு    மீதம் இருந்த கூழை உருட்டி வைத்து கிளம்பினாள்…

அடுப்பில் குக்கர் வைத்துவிட்டு எல்லோரும் தாயம் விளையாட ஆரம்பித்தனர்…

4 மணி அத்தை  வீட்டில்…

”  ஒரே அடம் மன்னி… இந்த ரோஷன் ரொம்ப பிடிவாதம் பிடிக்கறான்…. ஏழு வயசுக்கே இந்த ஆட்டம்…. ”  காபியுடன் வந்தாள் ரூபா ஸ்ரீதியின் அத்தை….

” இந்தா குழந்தை… உனக்கு கடலை உருண்டடை பிடிக்குமாமே .. இந்தா சாப்பிடு…”  பாட்டி கொடுக்க  பல்லெல்லாம் வெளியே தெரிய குஷியாய் வாங்கிப் போய் ஒரு ஓரத்தில் உட்கார்ந்தான்…. ஸ்ரீதி அவனை சீண்டிக் கொண்டிருந்தாள்… இருவரும் ஏதோ பேசிக்கொண்டும், சிரித்துக் கொண்டும் இருந்தனர்…

ஸ்கூலில் ஏதோ வரைந்ததை ஸ்ரீதிக்கு காண்பித்து சந்தோஷப்பட்டான் ரோஷன்…. அதைப் பார்த்த பாவ்னாவிற்கு ஆனந்தக் கண்ணீரே வந்து விட்டது…. தெரியாமல் கைக்குட்டையால் துடைத்துக் கொண்டாள் …

“மன்னி… கார அப்பம் பண்ணலாமா…. ”  நாத்தனார் கேட்க…. ” நீங்க ரெண்டுப் பேரும் உட்கார்ந்துண்டு … பேசுங்கோ…. சாமான்களை சொல்லு நான் செய்யறேன்…  ”  பாட்டி சொல்ல ”  ஆமாம்… நீ வா.. அம்மா நல்லா பண்ணுவா… நானும் சாப்பிட்டு ரொம்ப நாள் ஆச்சு என்றாள் பாவனா…

“உறவுகள் என்றும் அழிவதில்லை  …. நம் மன ப்ரம்மைதான்…. கொஞ்சம் புரிதல், வீட்டுக் கொடுத்தல் இருந்தால் வாழ்க்கையில் சந்தோஷத்திற்கு அளவேயில்லை…”

மனதில் நினைத்துக் கொண்டே ஒரு புன்சிரிப்போடு புதுப்படத்தைப் பற்றி பேசிக்கொண்டிருந்தாள் பாவனா..

“பாட்டி… நேத்திக்கு வந்தாளே அது யாரு ?  “

” என்னோட மாமா பொண்ணோட நாத்தனார்…. இங்கதான் பக்கத்துக்கு தெருவிலே இருக்கா…. நான் வந்திருக்கேன்னு சொல்லிருக்கா.  அதான் வந்தா…. ”  பாட்டி .

” இன்னிக்கு நாம எங்க போகப்போறோம்?  ”  ஆவலோடு ஸ்ரீதி கேட்க  ”  உன்னோட சித்திப்பாட்டி கிரோம்பேட்டைல இருக்கா… அவளைத்தான் பார்க்கப்போறோம்… அவ ஆத்திலே கோகிலா அவ பேத்தி 10 வயசாறது இருக்கா….  அப்புறம் இப்பதான் அவளுக்கு தம்பி பிறந்திருக்கு….. ”  சொல்லி முடிக்குமுன் ”  அம்மா.. சரி சாப்பிடலாம்… சீக்கிரம்… கிளம்பனும்  ”  பாவனா அழைத்தாள் …

“இத்தனைப் பேரு இருக்காளா? ”  ஆச்சரியத்துடன் கேட்ட பேத்தியை ஆசையோடு அணைத்து ” ஆமாம்டி…. நிறைய பேரு இருக்கா…. ”  என்றாள் பாட்டி, சிரித்துக்கொண்டே …!

இதைக் கேட்டுக் கொண்டிருந்த பாவனா முகத்தில் ஒரு தெளிவு ஏற்பட்டிருப்பதைப் பார்த்து பாட்டி திருப்தி அடைந்தாள்.

மைதிலி ராம்ஜி

“My Mom Is My Life” | A Heartwarming Story From A Daughter

Every​ ​mom ​​has ​​a ​​different ​​role ​​to ​​play ​​in ​​their ​​home. At ​mine, my mom ​​is ​​not just ​​a ​​mother​​ but​ ​also ​​a ​​super woman ​​with ​​superlative ​​powers. My Mom Is My Life. She​​ is​ ​the ​​best ​​gift ​​of ​​life ​​and ​​without​​ her, ​​I’m ​​nothing. ​I ​​love​ ​my ​​mom​​ more ​​than​ ​any one ​​in ​​life ​​because​​ she​ ​is my​ ​friend​ ​for​ ​forever,​ ​my ​​teacher ​​for ​​life ​​and​ ​my ​​idol ​​for ​​my ​​dreams.She ​​taught​​ me​​ that ​​what ever​​ you ​​do ​​be ​​honest,​​ be ​​humble,​​ be ​​a ​​focus​​ to ​​your​ ​goal​​ which​ ​is ​​my ​​mantra​​ for ​​life ​​andmakes​​ me​ ​be ​​a ​​seeker ​​for ​​a ​​dream.

I ​​think ​​this ​​not ​​enough.​​ It is ​better ​​to ​​write​​ the​ ​story ​​which ​​is ​​unheard​ ​by​ ​anyone​​ and ​​untold​ ​by me.

My Mom Is My Life | A Heartwarming Story From A Daughter

It ​​is the ​​story ​​of ​​an ​​inspiring​​ life​ ​who​ ​is ​​everything​ ​to ​​me, ​​my ​​mom, from a few​ ​years ​​back​ ​In​ ​2004…

When​ ​I​ ​was​ ​born, ​​everyone ​​was ​​so ​​happy​ ​and ​​my ​​mom’s​ ​happiness​​ was​ ​something ​​else​ ​cause​ ​I ​​was​​ the​ ​first ​​child ​​to my​ ​parents​ ​and​ ​it ​​was​ ​also ​​the​ ​day ​​when​​ my ​​parents​ built​ ​their ​​own ​​home​​ by working ​​​hard​​ &​​ struggling to make ends meet. It​ ​was one of​ ​the ​​best ​​moments they’d ​​never​ ​​forget​​ in​​ life.

Everything​ ​was​​ going ​​well until my ​​dad​ ​passed​ ​away​​ from a ​​heart​​ attack ​​a year later. My ​​mom​​ was ​​trying ​​to​ ​display her strength​ although ​​her​ ​tears and​ impatience becoming second nature​​ said ​otherwise. ​I ​​was ​​a little​​ child​ ​so ​I ​​could​ ​not ​​decipher​ ​what​ was ​​happening​​ around ​​me, ​​mom ​​used ​​to work ​​and​ ​as​ ​the ​​day ​​passes​​ the​ ​pain ​​heals. ​My ​​mom​ ​and ​​me ​​moved ​​on ​​in ​​life. At​​ the age​ ​of ​​18, ​​I ​started​ ​valuing​ ​my ​​mom​ ​more ​​when​ ​I heard​ ​the ​​inspiring ​​story ​​of my ​​mom ​​from ​​my​ ​maternal​​grandmother. How as a single mother, she ​​nurtured​ ​me ​​and ​the challenges ​​she​​ she faced ​​to ​​give​ ​every ​bit of ​happiness​​ that I desired.

That ​​day ​​I ​​decided​​ whatever ​​I​ ​do​​ should make ​her ​​proud ​​and happy. So​ ​I ​​started​​ working​​ hard​ ​and​​ concentrating better on studies ​​to ​​pursue ​​the ​​dreams​ ​that​ we dreamt. As​​ months & years​ passed by, ​​I ​​was ​​finally ​​on​ ​my ​​own ​​feet, ​​I​​took ​​over most of ​​the​ ​responsibility at ​​home​ to avoid burdening mom with work and chores. She now had a ​matured child​​ to take care of both of them.

My ​​mom​ ​was ​​a ​​house wife​ ​when ​​my ​​dad ​​was ​​alive. After​​ he​ ​passed​​ away​​ she​ ​started​ ​working ​​in​​ the​ ​primary​​ school​​ along-side being ​​a ​​part-time​​ cook​​ at ​​the ​​school restaurant.​​ In my opinion, what ​​she​ has done for her family cannot be easily matched.​ So, ​I’m​​ proud​​ of ​​my ​​mom,​​ she ​​is​ ​my ​​inspiration, my ​​motivation​​ and​ ​my​ ​life.

What ​​I ​​learned​​ from​​ Mom​​ is​​ written​​ below​​ in ​​the ​​poetry​ ​

I​​ can​​ see ​​the​ ​tears​​ in​ ​your​ ​eyes,

I​​ can​ ​see​​ the​ ​pain​​ in​ ​your​ ​heart

I​​ can​​ see​ ​the​ ​scars​​ on​ ​your ​​body,

So please, don’t​​ pretend​​ to ​​be who​​ you​​ are ​​not.

Ty. Love you Mom. Forever. When I say My Mom Is My Life, I mean it.

Parenting Is Like Cooking Maggi | A Story On The Beauty Of Parenting

It was one of those rare days when I was craving for Maggi. I asked my 5 year old son whether he wanted some. There was excitement in his eyes. Of course he did! He was surprised that his Mamma was offering Maggi instead of healthier alternatives. Usually he had to try hard to convince me on this one.

I put water in a pan to boil. I noticed how water from room temperature got warm and made beautiful bubbles on the sides. I felt it resembled a parenting journey and set me thinking about the similarities between the two. YES, Parenting Is Like Cooking Maggi! Some days as a parent are tough and testing for us. We have to bear the heat and go through many emotions. But the cute little bubbles that we get to see as a result, make it all worthwhile.

Parenting is like cooking maggi

I added the hard Maggi noodles and noticed how they changed their form and softened in hot water. That’s how I feel when I scold my son and he looks back at me with those mischievous yet innocent eyes. My heart melts and I can’t scold him further. Kids are aware that they are doing something wrong. But they don’t want to upset their parents, for they mean the world to them. A little patience and more love from our side may discipline them better than any outburst can.

And what’s life without a little Maggi masala flavour. That can bring zing to an otherwise dull preparation much like our children who add so much to our routine lives. Without them every day would be mundane but their presence provides a roller coaster of emotions each day. Not all days are the same but at the end of each day our love for them only grows deeper and stronger. They are truly the flavour in an otherwise ordinary life.

It’s usually advertised that Maggi takes only 2 minutes though it seems to take longer. Similarly, in parenting, everyone around tries to comfort you with the fact that the current phase will be short and the next phase of your child will be easier to manage. However, the truth is – once a parent, always a parent. You never stop worrying about them even when they move out of your house. Parenting is a life-long journey with so many stations yet not one single final destination.

You can decide how you want your maggi –watery or dry or in the middle. Much like how you want to mould your children. They learn more by watching us than hearing from us so the example we set before them will shape their character and personality. We have to walk the talk.

As my son and I sat on the table with our bowls and dug in, there was a sense of joy in my heart. It was comfort food in a strange way and I had missed it for some time. The time with our children also is similar. It passes by before you realize it. Just like maggi needs the water, masala and the noodles to make it tasty, we have to bring in liberal doses of love, time, care and understanding into raising our children into the maggi of tomorrow.

Now you see why I said Parenting Is Like Cooking Maggi? 😉

This blog is a part of the Ultimate #BlogChallenge

Letter To My Daughter

Letter to my daughter

Dear Daughter,

You were exactly 7 months four day old when I started going to work leaving you with a nanny. It has been over a month now but I still feel the separation anxiety and my heart bleeds when you look at me with varied expectations while I am rushing to work.

I just want to tell you a few things which we can discuss in detail when you are mature enough to understand. I personally feel that is the responsibility of both the father and the mother to contribute towards the upbringing and running of the family. In the era of sky – rocketing prices and high aspirations it is unfair to burden one person to take care of all costs.

While you grow up, I am sure lots of people will tell you that your mother was selfish, money minded, materialistic and could not sacrifice her work for you. All I can say is that you are my priority and I love you more than anything else and as you grow up you will realise this by yourself. Also, it is the right of every woman to have an identity apart from being just a mom or a Mrs.

It is only because of you and your supporting father that I can take pride in being both a mother as well as working professional. You have adjusted well to my 10 hour work schedule and never fail to greet me back in the evening with a smile.  My post work time is now so precious that I can skip all social gatherings just to spend some quality play time with you.

I want to reassure you that we both will always be there to celebrate all your highs in life. You will find me in your PTM meetings and stage functions. You will not miss your mom guiding you through your homework, hobbies and later on your career choices.

When you grow up and read this letter, I am sure you will also take pride in your working mom and will be understand that love cannot be quantified. Your happiness, success and smile is the reason for our existence. Be independent and keep spreading smiles.

Your mother

 

This blog is a part of the Ultimate #BlogChallenge.

 

How To Increase Immunity In Child Naturally

Immunity – Have you started building it in your kids yet

It is said that you are what you eat. Rather, what you eat today will shape how you live tomorrow. There is an indelible truth in every word of this statement. Immunity is perhaps the key factor that decides your health. With the seasonal changes and unpredictable weather, your child becomes more susceptible to diseases and infections like common cough and cold. How To Increase Immunity In Child Naturally-Ayurveda? Wherever you go, you watch your kids play in the playground alongside kids with runny noses or with severe coughs, or maybe with conjunctivitis too.

Read Best Home Remedies To Cure Cold & Cough Naturally.

You watch helplessly as those same fingers go into their mouths or the nose, and there it is- the perfect inlet for the germs and eventually infections. As a parent, you have 2 choices –

1) Become over-cautious. Do not let the children play out considering risk to hygiene factors.

2) Let them play in the open and ensure they immediately have a good bath before resuming their studies, eating and ensure you are building their immunity to protect them from the possibility of an infection.

Read How To Stop Diarrhea Fast In Kids

Immunity Boosters

But haven’t you enjoyed rains as a child?

Haven’t you jumped on the little puddles and made paper boats?

Haven’t you eaten golas & pani-puris on the street?

Haven’t you had the orange ice stick ice-cream at the beach?

Then why shouldn’t your kids enjoy the same in their childhood? Why do you not want your children to enjoy these wonderful moments?

IT IS OK TO LET GO SOMETIMES!

So, what can you do as a parent? How can you boost your child’s immunity?

Foods That Help You Increase Immunity In Child / Kids

Yoghurt & Probiotics – How to Increase Immunity in Child in India

Benefits Of Yoghurt

Yoghurt is one of the most common food consumed in India. When the question ” How to increase immunity in child in India ” arises, Yoghurt shouldn’t come as a surprise. Yoghurt boosts ‘Gut Health’ as it contains beneficial bacteria that prevent cold & flu in both children & adults. Serve Greek at least once a day, pair it with fruit and homemade granola to make it yummy & healthy. If your child does not acquire a liking to yoghurt, try low-fat curd in any form like raita or lassi to improve the digestive system of your child.

Lemons and other citrus foods – Best Food To Increase Immunity in Child

Lemons are considered to be one of the super foods packed with Vitamin C, Vitamin B6, Vitamin A, Vitamin B, folate, which makes it the Best food to increase immunity in children. It has become an essential in our everyday diet. Lemon juice can be added to many of the dishes and make it tangy and tasty. You can have ½ a lemon a day diluted with water or added to foods.

How To Increase Immunity In Kids Naturally

I have read that studies show that lemon juice destroys the bacteria of malaria, cholera, diphtheria typhoid and other deadly diseases. An added benefit being that it also destroys intestinal worms. Thus, making it very useful and relevant when it comes to kids’ health, as we all know what all goes into their little tummies. Above all, it is very helpful in boosting the immune system.

Garlic – Best Foods To Improve Immunity In Child

Garlic

Garlic is used widely in the Indian cuisine in curries and gravies. It adds great flavour to the dish and has fantastic anti-viral,anti-microbial, anti-fungal, anti-oxidant, anti-bacterial properties. It improves the production of White-Blood Cells which fight infection in the body. Use liberally to avoid constipation, cold & cough in kids.

Read Quick Healthy Lunch Box Recipes For Kids using these ingredients.

Eggs 

Food That Help in Boosting Immunity in Child

The famous tagline that we all associate with the National egg campaign in India is “Sunday ho yaa Monday, roz khao Andey”. This initiative has gone a long way in promoting the consumption of an egg every day in kid’s diet. Be it in the way of scrambled eggs, boiled egg, raw egg or omelettes, no other food can substitute eggs, as it is one of the only foods with naturally occurring vitamin D. They also include a number of other immune-boosting nutrients such as B vitamins, selenium, B12 vitamin and folic acid. It is important to note that the egg is a complete protein food and has 6 grams of proteins per serving.

Oats and other whole grains

Whole Grains Help In Increasing Immunity

Oats and other whole grain cereals like wheat, rye, barley, maize, corn, ragi and lentil, to name a few are very rich in Vitamin B. Vitamin B6, pantothenoic acid and folic acid are helpful in strengthening the immune system. Vitamins can not only help fight the bacteria away but also give the necessary impetus to the immune system to fight back in the event of any disease or infections. Thus, it is very important to include them in your kid’s diet.

If may interest you to know Oats Are A Healthy Way To Increase Weight In Children.

Almonds, Walnuts & Nuts – How To Improve Immunity Home Remedies

Benefits OF Nuts

How to improve immunity home remedies?
Instead of munching on the crunchy chips, chocolates & cookies, give your child a generous helping of almonds, walnuts, raisins, figs, pecans, pistachios, pumpkin seeds, flax seeds that are power houses of proteins, Vitamin E, minerals, potassium, riboflavin, niacin, zinc & Omega-3 Fatty acids – critically essential if you are a vegetarian. Although, they are high in calories, they are good calories. You can introduce nuts in the powdered form to toddlers above 6months in the form of porridge to begin with for ease of digestion. 

Green Leafy Vegetables – How To Increase Immunity Power Naturally

Greens Help build Immunity

How to increase immunity power naturally?
As much as some kids dislike GLV’s, they promote DNA repair and hence a must for growing children. They contain anti-oxidants, iron, folic acid, zinc & essential vital vitamins. Incorporate greens at least 4-5 times a week in different forms – cooked, baked, raw or boiled. Spinach, kale, broccoli are power houses of essential nutrients. They also help fight cancer.

How To Boost Immunity In Toddlers – Ayurveda Foods

Ayurvedic medicine for immunity power has proven to have significant improvement in overall health as it is not about suppressing the symptoms, but about addressing the root cause of our imbalances. It is the oldest medicinal system that has originated from India.
It does not just combat infections and diseases but more importantly works towards the prevention of the development of diseases.

Ayurvedic Food to Increase Immunity – How to Boost Immunity in Toddlers

Using Ayurvedic food to increase immunity shouldn’t come as a surprise. Ayurveda concentrates on immunity-enhancing foods. 

Any food which transforms itself into ojas is good for immunity, hence creates radiant good health & stable emotions, promoting quality liver functioning, and a balanced endocrine system.

If the food creates ama, it’s bad for the body. They include hard-to-digest foods or caused due to bad or untimely eating habits.

Read more on Banyan Botanicals.

Ayurvedic Herbs That Boost Immunity In Child

Easy-To-Digest Foods

  • Dairy products like curd & paneer, lentils like pulses and dhals, fresh vegetables, fruits & whole grains that are not processed are quickly converted into “Ojas” which enhance immunity.
  • Strictly avoid packaged food as they contain harmful preservatives, chemicals which turns into “Ama” and does not reach the cells for absorption of vitamins & minerals.
  • Avoid meat – Ayurveda advocates intake of only vegetarian food.
  • Avoid sugar, alcohol, canned foods, microwaved foods and gluten.
  • Asafoetida destroys poisons and bad bacteria. So, do include in all the main dishes.

Read on why you should avoid packaged & junk foods

Eat Your Meals At The Right Time, The Right Quantity & Right Manner

  • Digestion is the best when the sun rays are at the peak. So your lunch(mid-day meal) should be the heaviest; followed by ‘Breakfast’ and then ‘Dinner’ being the lightest of all.
  • A routine helps normalize the digestion process.
  • Eat only 70-75% of your normal capacity for optimum digestion.
  • Consume 150ml luke-warm water along with your meals to ease digestion
  • Do not over cook. Let it be soft but not mushy.
  • Eat seasonal foods that are locally grown in your region.
  • Fast once a week to cleanse your system (if possible).
  • Scrape the tongue daily to remove bad odour and harmful microbes.

Ayurvedic Foods That Increase Immunity In The Child

  • Green Leafy Vegetables – Spinach, Kale, Swiss Chard, Cabbage, Cauliflower, Broccoli and Mustard Greens contain iron, flavanoids and antioxidants and mentioned earlier.
  • Use mild spices like Turmeric, Cumin, Coriander & Black Pepper while cooking food for your child to strengthen the intelligence of the immune system.
  • Whole Grain Foods – Barley, Ragi, Amaranth and Quinoa are superfoods when consumed regularly.
  • Fruits like Pomegranate, Papaya, Plums, Peaches, Apples, Pineapple which are sweet contain fibre and antioxidants which are great to taste and super healthy.

Yoga & Meditation

  • Yoga helps to dissipate tension, remove stagnation, and promotes fluidity throughout the tissues, through the mental and emotional spheres.
  • Meditation cultivates passive awareness and helps us to engage with our lives in a vivid and detached manner. This skill when developed, calms the nervous system and decreases stress.
  • Adequate sleep is extremely essential for your body to recoup.
  • Pranayama and breathing expedite digestion and help maintain a calm positive state of mind.

Read on the Best Yoga Poses For Kids.

Ayurvedic Herbs to Increase Immunity in Child

Ayurvedic Foods That Help Boost Immunity

  • Ginger: Fresh ginger, dried ginger or ginger root kindles digestive fire, and cleanses the blood and lymph. It promotes blood circulation and removes excess kapha from the lungs.

How to consume: 25-30 drops of Ginger juice in water 2-3 times a day.

  • Turmeric: Known as the “Golden Spice”, it purifies blood, eliminates toxins from the digestive tract. Can be taken as freshly ground turmeric powder or liquid extract.

How to consume: Either incorporate it in your daily diet in curries, gravies, etc. atleast twice a meal or take 1-2 tablet everyday.

  • Tulsi: Tulsi has several benefits and is a common household plant widely worshiped in India. Some of them include – blood circulation, respiratory disorders, cold & cough, digestion, mental clarity.

How to consume: The ideal way would be to eat fresh 2-3 fresh Tulsi leaves everyday.

  • Chyavanprash: It is a herbal jam made from amalaki fruit. It buffers against stress, and bolsters the immune system. Consumed everyday, this nutritive jam can support energy, vitality, and overall well-being. This is the easiest way to use Ayurvedic Herbs to Increase Immunity in Child.

How to consume: Take 1–2 tsp daily.

  • Ashwagandha: In Sanskritit means “smell of a horse” its name implies the strength, power and virility of a horse. Ashwagandha is a rejuvenative herb that nourishes the tissues, reduces anxiety and stress, increases libido and fertility, balances the nervous system. It has powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant effects.

How to consume: As recommended by the doctor.

  • Trifle, Giloy, Shatavatri add solid herbal support to the immune system.

How to consume: A combination as directed by your Ayurvedic Expert.

  • Ojas Drink – Ayurvedic Medicine For Immunity Power

Once of the best ways to build ojas is to make a morning drink on empty stomach. Blend the following ingredients in 300ml of milk (organic, non-homogenized or raw cow milk) or almond milk:
– 1 tsp ghee
– 3 tbsps blanched almonds

– 2-3 dates

– 3 to 4 strands of saffron
– 1 tsp shredded coconut
– 1 tbsp raw honey

Tips To Boost Immunity In Child During Winter

  • Massage regularly warm oils such as sesame or sunflower that  strengthens the skin, muscles and nourishes the tissues.
  • Taking bath in lukewarm water with epsom salt and essential oils with ingredients including cardamom, eucalyptus, rosemary, cinnamon, cedar, pine, juniper, basil is probably one of the easiest Tips to Boost Immunity in Child during Winter
  • Honey & Amla can be included in your daily diet raw or in the form of juice.
  • Regular exercise eliminates strain, moves stagnant emotional and mental energy, enhances blood circulation, improves digestion & promotes good sleep.

I hope you include these superfoods in your child’s diet but in case they are fussy eaters or need an extra boost, you can always look into including food supplements in their diet. With the extra immunity boost, you can let them do all those things that you loved to do as a kid including letting them play in the rain!